A good friend of ours blogged the past six months about her dad being sick. And we have decided to start posting some of them. I will tell you a little about her. She just graduated with her Masters and had what she thought was her dream job. She had also dated her boyfriend for about two years, he is a cardiologist who we like to refer to as the dr. Everything was going great in her life until January when she was on vacation and got a call that she needed to come immediately because her dad was in the hospital and was really sick. We aren't going to post all of the blogs just some of them. What she went through was truely remarkable and not in a good sense. How is it that 2 months ago I thought my life was absolutely perfect and now it all seems to be falling apart. When my mom called and said that dad's doctor told her it was cancer and he only had six months to live I was so in shock. I didn't want to beleive it. And when I got home the next day I talked to Dr. ***** and he said that he is 99% sure that it is liver cancer and we need to start my dad on chemo the following Monday I freaked. What does he mean 99% sure. I don't think that is good enough. He is just gp not a specialist and its a very small community hospital. So I did what I do best, research. I stayed up for two days and nights researching liver cancer and treatment options and called my bf and asked his opinion. He said that if I didn't agre with Dr. ***** that I should get a second opinion. So I researched and found the best cancer clinic in Missouri. I told Dad's dr the next day that we were going to get a second opinion and he told me that it was a waste of our time. And we shouldn't even bother with it. And I really pushed the issue and told him it wasn't optional we were going to get a second opinion. Do you know what that jerk of a doctor told me? He said I should do what I do best, and just sit there and look pretty. I was speechless at first and then I was increadibly angry. How dare he insult me like that, don't doubt my intelligence because of how I look. Needless to say Dr. ***** and I don't get along. And we don't agree on anything at this point. If it is cancer then I'm not sure we want to go the chemo route. There are some alternative treatment centers. And we have a friend that has had amazing results from a place in Kansas. I'm not sold on chemo. And it should be the patients and the patients familys choice on how to treat it. We went to the specialist and she did some tests and we get the results back next week. Everyday Dr. ***** comes into my dads room and tells me that everyday I convince my parents not to start chemo, that I'm killing my dad faster. And its been two months since this started and he hasn't had treatment of any kind. What if I'm wrong? What if it really is cancer and they didn't start chemo because of me? What if he really only has 4 months left to live? Am I gambling with my dad's life? All of my research shows that cancer doesn't start in the liver it starts elsewhere and spreads to the liver. But Dr. ***** can't find it anywhere else. Dr. **** seems to have a god complex. I think he is in over his head and finds this case as a challenge. And that is unacceptable to me. I also don't appreciate all the sexist comments he makes to me. Every day I research and make a list of questions for him and he never knows the answers. I'm so frustrated. Btw the dr dumped me. He told me that I was spending to much time back in Missouri and not enough in Texas. What was the point in being in a relationship if I was never there. So much for him being supportive and loving through all of this. How did everything in my life fall apart so fast? We looked at rings in January and now he breaks up with me when I need him the most? I guess the good news if that I found out what his real character is. I'm definately not a fan of any medical professionals right now. I will blog again next week with an update. Sorry I haven't called but remember I grew up in the sticks and I get no service here. So thats one of her first blogs she sent us. We will continue to post them. Her experience taught us a lot and think you will all learn some valuable lessons as well. Thanks! Just Us