About Me
Hi, my name is Melissa. I love being on this site because of the interaction and support, and learn things too.
The first thing I would like people to know is that I have a mental illness -- schizoaffective, bipolar type (1), severe depression, PTSD, panic attacks (anxiety disorders) as well as other things, medical included. But with meds I kind of fit in appearance wise and into society. Because of the meds though I need LOTS of sleep to function. This profile may be "scattered" in thoughts/what I write because things come to me at different times and I'm just trying to get the info in, in as short a possible way so this profile isn't too long!
You'd never guess I am 40, maybe 25 or younger. I have a very hard time socializing. My life has been turned in all ways like an amusement park ride. Every day I wake up not knowing how I will be that day and how the day will go (like how tired I will get, will I get/feel sick, how anxious wil I be, will I even need sleep and finding something to do during those times). Because of my medical and psychological history I see doctors frequently and have tests done medically often.
I cant handle much in life but I do try. If I have any kind of stress, the hallucinations (voices mainly, but also seeing things) come back and take a very long time to leave. Because of this I lead a VERY low profile life, not doing much during the day at all--I sleep, eat, watch TV, walk (my favorite thing outside of the house to do; I walk 5-7 miles about 5 days a week), correspond with people etc on the internet, sometimes I'm up for some crosstitch, go to doctors, shop for food and other things, and occaisionally go out and run errands if someone wants company. I am not able to drive because I have narcolepsy, have anxiety attacks, have a hard time watching things moving fast.
I went to 5 years of college at FSC (graduated in '95), did 3 internships within that time, passed the RD exam, graduated with honors, but was never able to practice becasue of my health and mental health. Though I want to stress that I wouldn't trade the experience and knowledge I learned for anything. I loved college, and sometimes I wish I could turn back time knowing what I know now, or not--either way it was a great experience.
Having mental illness means many things change in life, and a lot of them are invisible. Most pple don't understand these things and aren't aware of them.
Being sick doesn't mean I'm still not a human being. I spend most of my day in considerable mental and physical pain and exhaustion, and if you visit, ie, sometimes I probably dont seem like much fun to be with, but I'm still me stuck inside this body. I worry about my family, friends, and most of the time I'd still like to hear you talk about yours.
Being able to do one thing one day doesnt mean I can do it the next--ie, if I am able to STAND up for 10 minutes doesn't mean I can do it for 20 minutes or an hour at any given point in time. If I need to lay down and rest, most times it doesn't mean I can wait 10-20-30 minutes to do so. I need to do it then. It just happens that way. With these diseases it gets more confusing everyday. It can be like a yo-yo. I never know from day to day how i am going to feel when I wake up. In most cases I dont know from minute to minute. Makes it hard to plan things, and live up to commitments.
In the above paragraph, substitute sitting, walking, thinking, concetrating, being sociable, etc (it applies to everything) with the word STAND. I dont like when pple say "But you did it before" or "Oh, come on, you can do this" if I've said I can't already. If you want me to do something then it's helpful to ask first if I can. I may also need to cancel a previous commitment at the last minute. If this happens, please do not take it personally. Remember how lucky you are able to do all of the things that you can do.
Also, getting out and doing things does not always make me feel better, and can often make me seriously worse. Telling me to do some things to get my mind off whatever, may really frustrate me because what people dont see is that if I was capable of doing things I would do them. I am working with my all my doctors and I am doing what I am supposed to do. I try to fit in and be normal.
Mental illness is hard to understand unless you have been through it. Please accept me as I am. I'm just asking you to try to be understanding in general.
In many ways I depend on others who are not sick to do everyday things. You are my link to the "normalcy" of life. You can help me to keep in touch with the parts of life that I miss and hope to experience one day, just as soon as I am able.
To me time is very important and it is the most precious gift that someone can offer. It’s something that everybody has. However not a lot of. It’s also something that a person can’t buy more of. To me, the greatest compliment in the world that someone can pay me is that they spent their time, with just me, being with me or thinking about me. And that deserves a lot of time in return. While people see things as a process happening, to me I am just getting used to the part still that I am accepted and like being spoken to.
While there is an adult aspect to me, there is still part child in me looking through my eyes, and the world is still confusing. I have so much to learn and understand still.
So here I am today. Everyday is a challenge just to do something everyone does naturally, plus try to fit in. But I will always be me and try my best.
I don’t always act my age (actually, I really don't know) because I don’t know how to in some respects. (How does a person behave at 40?) And sometimes my reactions to things may reflect a younger person because that is all I know. It is really hard to fit in because as everyone gets older, I don’t seem to. And not being really my true age (not knowing how to be my real age) makes me gradually stick out from the crowd.
I like to observe people, listen, learn, and figure stuff out. Watch the world, wonder what’s out there. And how I have so much to learn, wondering will I ever get to experience just a little bit of everything. I am trying to move forward every day.
I have had an eating disorder (at one point anorexia nervosa, and bulimia at another) since 1988 -- I am totally well now (literally) after 20 years -- and I did it on my own without hospital intervention. I've been in remission since 2008. It took A LOT of things to make this happen. It doesn't define me anymore like it used to, and life is so much better without it.
There is a lot more to me but I cant think of them right now. I dont mind answering questions though.
Feel free to contact me at melissaw72@verizon.net
Melissa.
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rivsmom....I saw this picture and it was something I totally...
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mjclements13....No, the message wasn't left for us... not sure where...
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Did someone leave you this message?
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Hhehheheheh melissaa your serving service is very p00r so I...
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hahahaah melissa the fruit upon the head of cat was mine.! u...
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Thanks :) I'm kind of making fun of myself (in...
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Oh..The kitty is sooo cute Melissa!
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Exactly, well said ! Melissa.
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That's what my Dad used to say about me. Come...
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Thank you! I like it too. Melissa.
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Love it. especially since I have a feline friend. ...
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Exactly lol :) Melissa.
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hhhhh yeah its funny ....the poor cat he want to...
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What do you mean........just thought it was a funny picture...
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lol...but what for ??
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yeah 2010 wish u the best and a happy life
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hhhh i like this one ....I wish i could find...
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Happy Holidays everyone! Melissa.
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fine baby sleeping wit smile.i love u baby
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ha ha ha such a funny cat,i like it
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HI--how adorable the cat is--I have 2 cats. CandyH
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I know but she is beautiful. She looks a little...
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She looks so sad!
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Thank you...a friend of mine gave it to me and...
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How precious is that, Melissa. My cat doesn't sleep on...
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No, not me as a child. It's an Anne Geddes...
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I love her pictures also.At first I thought maybe it...
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hahahahaha very funny really very very nice
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thanks sheilah :-) I like them too.
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What a cute baby and awesom pictures
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thats really funny>>>>>>
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Melissa, That is too cute, I like the facial expression...
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:) lol yup!
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I got a close up, it's a melon peel! Too...
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Thanks. I like being a part of sometihing. Thank you...
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Melissa,I love that saying.It is do hard to find friends...
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Hi alexandra, it helped me overall, and I did eventually lose weight. BUT it was NOT all because of the honey and cinnamon alone. I used that in addition to other things to help lose weight. In general my weight is up and down, but I do use cinnamon and honey almost regularly.
Melissa.
hello mel.. i came accross the honey and cinnimon receipe for weight loss.. and i saw that you had tried it.. but i was wondering, did you ever reach your goal? and did it work for you?
Thank you cadrian.
Melissa.
Ooh I feel sorry about your problem. I am sure you are ok, people loves you and GOD takes care for you.
You're welcome! Yes, I'm looking up to see exactly when it came out in theaters...and it came out in November of 2012...just in time for the awards season...I had seen it a couple months ago when it was still in some theaters...I just noticed that it made $128 million in theaters...it's hard for a movie to come close to $100 million, let alone surpass it! It definitely got an "awards season" bump...everyone was curious when it got nominated for Golden Globes and Oscars.
My reference: http://boxofficemojo.com/movies/?page=main&id=silverliningsplaybook.htm
GreenFish ... thanks! I did read the synopsis ... I like to know what a movie is about ahead of time because it helps me understand it better. I had never heard of this movie; was it out in the theaters?
Melissa.
Melissa,
Got your message, and yes it will come out at the end of this month. It's a comedy-drama and was nominated for 8 Academy Awards, and Jennifer Lawrence (you probably know her from The Hunger Games movie) WON best actress for this movie--Silver Linings Playbook! Her performance was stunning and she deserved it...I loved her character even though she was unstable, to say the least! Academy Awards Info: http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1045658/awards?ref_=tt_awd
If you don't mind knowing just a tad about the movie before seeing, see this reviewer's comment..."Stunningly accurate look at the bipolar life." Scroll down to the bottom...the comment should be there for a while, but IMDb sometimes changes the order of the reviews... http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1045658/?ref_=sr_1 ...but if you like to go in "blind" to movies, not knowing anything about them--like I usually do--don't read it until after you see the movie!
Neisa ... thank you ... I wrote something on your profile page.
GreenFish ... it isn't out yet on DVD that I could find ... I wrote something on your profile page.
Melissa.
Hi Melissa, have you seen the movie Silver Linings Playbook? I was wondering what you thought their take was on mental illness. Bradley Cooper's character was diagnosed as bipolar, and Jennifer Lawrence was also struggling with the grief of her dead husband. I thought it was a very interesting movie, and a cute love story, too.
Melissa reading everything you have wrote and having all the conditions that you have, you have expressed and wrote everything i feel,what i go through and how hard it is for i see now both of us to deal with life itself. sometimes i dont know what is right or wrong and the confusion in life and how to act it is so hard to be like this. thank you for taking the time to let us know what you go through and what it's all about. i am going to read this over and over because when i read it its like you wrote about me. so thank you for opening up my dear here is my email neisa_rodriguez@yahoo.com contact me if you need to talk or vent. lots of love and hugs to you.
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