Posted by PIXIKU to Community, Jun 21, 2010 11:22am
Sunday, I saw Dr. Jim say to a fellow tweeter "...do you know you tweeted that out loud?" Dr. Jim is 100% right in bringing awareness to this growing phenomenon of combat boot texting veering close to or off into offensive texting. DO NOT text under the influence of anger or thoug...
Sunday, I saw Dr. Jim say to a fellow tweeter "...do you know you tweeted that out loud?" Dr. Jim is 100% right in bringing awareness to this growing phenomenon of combat boot texting veering close to or off into offensive texting. DO NOT text under the influence of anger or thoughtlessness. Don't mute conscience that sends up red flag best not to react in anger or thoughtlessness. Since the fallout of Texting Outloud can present in depression and anxiety related physical ailments thereof as well... that's why I'm suggesting this idea...
I think most everyone has at some point texted something online or said something offline or communicated in a fashion that they and/or someone else(s) thinks over the top. So, I believe we need a NATIONAL DELETE TEXT DAY. Many may not know that at right hand of tweet you can delete "and" undo iffy tweets & retweets, respectively. Also, most places you can ask tech staff to delete if you are unable to delete yourself or are hurt by a remark.
MAKE A FASHION STATEMENT
The Golden Rule
One Size Fits All
I came up with (FOR TEXTING OUT LOUD) deriving from the saying "For Crying Out Loud" because sometimes words do harm us or someone else and can even come back to haunt us. It is easy to react and perpetuate and exacerbate yet if we pause and remember what Dr. Phil said, "angry words are usually said when someone is hurting." Before angrily lashing out or reacting to someone who did in kind try to find a better response... True "Silence Can Be Golden". Alert Tech Staff.
Being thoughtless online in some ways can have even worse ramifications than offline where few may see.
REMEMBER TOO IF ATTACKED to not empower a barrage of negative remarks consenting to by give credence to... then reacting to. Best to ignore and report. Believe me I KNOW easier said than done and experience is a hard teacher and I learned the hard way making harder on myself reacting.
In the book "Tongue Fu" the author Sam Horn says that a bully's target is no match to someone skilled at cutting others to the core. Who wants to be? Not me and I doubt most others want to learn that skill either... So best not to take the bait when attacked. Over the years, I have seen several who attacked others somehow manage to cut someone to the core then somehow deflect and add insult to injury to person(s) attacked as if instead the attacker is the victim. While picking teeth with a cyber toothpick of LOL's as if an accomplishment hiding in "He Said/She Said" camouflage knowing most don't care who started and just want to end.
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
Eleanor Roosevelt, 'This Is My Story,' 1937
So lets not consent reacting to harsh things said to us or speaking harshly... and find a better response. Any day I think there's nothing I need to improve is likely the day I need to most and, sadly, I've reacted at times when empowered negative words said to make me feel inferior reciprocating in kind a few times. Yet, paradoxically, that isn't kind and two wrongs never made any ONE right. Tit for tat isn't really self defense or being assertive... That's why I posted Eleanor Roosevelt quote I share to remind me and others to not empower something negative said by (reacting in kind) and instead pause to find a better response.
In Government class my government teacher said individual rights extends to the fingertips of other person(s). When overlap that's an infringement. We all need to have that image in our minds that at the tip of our fingertips texting are the fingertips of others. It is an enfringement of their right to the pursuit of happiness for anyone to entertain self with a barrage of thoughtless remarks whether online or offline. Most all have or will react... Yet if over the top... remember you can delete and, if lucky, before needlessly hurts someone.
If we pause and remember that behind every member name is a person. The Golden Rule, "Would I want that said to me or about me?" For see, two wrongs never made any ONE right and even reacting in harsh fashion is often in want of a better response. For see, the internet is becoming like the common man's Starr and Enquirer Magazine with persons just as distressed as famous people are when blasted in the tabloids when the average person blasted online in blogs or tweets or comments.
I wrote the below poem years ago when a band of online bullies were gang stalking me to the point I was too stressed to feel blessed and felt VERY depressed. Cyber depression can cause indigestion, sleepless nights and we've seen on TV even result in suicide. It helps to realize most will never see yet, too, Dr. Phil is right if someone uses your name can linger online, virtually, to sabotage resume' etc. I read where some attack others online as a tension release or as entertainment WHILE TALKING ON THE PHONE w/cohorts or when sharing a computer. I've even seen lots of LOL's of persons openly talking about attacking persons online for fun. Fun? When you are the target it isn't fun...
COUNTING TO TEN IS A GODSEND
Written August 5, 2004
Are you ready to walk out?
Stop. Count to ten and be sure it's the end
Are you ready to yell it out?
Stop. Count to ten and speak calmly again
Are you ready to write with a poison pen?
Stop. Count to ten and think again
Are you ready to speak with a venom tongue?
Stop. You will probably regret it in the end
Are you ready to slug it out?
Stop. Count to ten and don't do it again
Have you done your best and now must move on?
God speed and best wishes and have a good plan
Do you feel like nobody cares not even you?
Look up and smile and become your best friend
Are you hurting so much you think about giving up?
Count your blessings and don't lose faith my friend
Are you thinking that you don't know where to begin?
Go for a walk and let go and let God help you mend
Are you feeling like you'd like to believe and have hope?
Me too and that's why this message of hope to you I cyberly send
I'd love THE DOCTORS and THE DR. PHIL WEBSITE to be trend setters in having EVERYONE have to agree to Jay McGraw's Anti-Bully Pledge tweaked for both their website members. That not only is an oath to not bully on their websites and a "one for all all for one" vow to be trend setters to set examples as peace makers everywhere we are online. For any time I should have hit delete instead of tweet even before tweeting vogue and called texting or instant messaging. My apologies. Lets all sign on the dotted line... to forgo reacting to find a better thoughtful and user friendly response that acknowledges behind every member name everywhere online is a person with feelings like you. Me too. We too. Thank you.